Hi! I'm new and upset My son is drinking tonight. My heart hurts! |
i know u feel so bad... but if u can trust him in a way that he wont get drunk... his body is strong... its normal, in the end everyone will drink... i know i dont have the right to comment coz im not a parent or anything, but i love children, and for me they are the only reason to live... In the end, u cant forbid him from drinking... u can be there 4 him if he needs u...not more... i know u r suffering, but it would happen sooner or later... |
jrose, do you feel your son may be an alcoholic? There are plenty of good people from AA here and someone will come along soon who's 'been there'. In the meantime ((((((jrose)))) |
Welcome to SR! It does hurt when our loved ones drink. I suggest you go to the Friends & Family Forum and read the shares.. especially the top stickys. Click here please.. http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...ly-alcoholics/ Blessings to the 2 of you.. |
Hi Rose... My son is an alcoholic/addict and has recently relapsed. I remember before his last bout with sobriety how CRAZY I was! I tried the "four Ms" mentioned in my Alanon book - I managed I manipulated I monitored and I martyred :) I found another set of letters MUCH more helpful - the 3Cs: I cannot CAUSE addiction I cannot CONTROL addiction I cannot CURE addiction I 'got' those 3Cs intellectually... right from the get go. But I didn't "get" how to apply them in a practical meaningful way until I messed up time and time again. It seems I needed to learn from experience. :) So, when my son "went back out", this time - I was sad... very sad. And I will slip occassionally into "awfulizing" and "future tripping", but I increase my attendance at Alanon, because it was there that I learned how to act and react to the addicts/alcoholics in my life... and they are the best resource for me. I started with 1 meeting per week, but I increased my number of meetings per week. I hope you can find some Alanon meetings... they helped me very much. |
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