Hi! I'm new and upset
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Join Date: Sep 2006
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i know u feel so bad... but if u can trust him in a way that he wont get drunk... his body is strong... its normal, in the end everyone will drink...
i know i dont have the right to comment coz im not a parent or anything, but i love children, and for me they are the only reason to live...
In the end, u cant forbid him from drinking... u can be there 4 him if he needs u...not more... i know u r suffering, but it would happen sooner or later...
i know i dont have the right to comment coz im not a parent or anything, but i love children, and for me they are the only reason to live...
In the end, u cant forbid him from drinking... u can be there 4 him if he needs u...not more... i know u r suffering, but it would happen sooner or later...
Forward we go...side by side-Rest In Peace
Join Date: Jun 2002
Location: Serene In Dixie
Posts: 36,740
Welcome to SR!
It does hurt when our loved ones drink.
I suggest you go to the Friends & Family Forum
and read the shares..
especially the top stickys.
Click here please..
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...ly-alcoholics/
Blessings to the 2 of you..
It does hurt when our loved ones drink.
I suggest you go to the Friends & Family Forum
and read the shares..
especially the top stickys.
Click here please..
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...ly-alcoholics/
Blessings to the 2 of you..
On a tear
Join Date: Jul 2003
Location: Volcano Country!
Posts: 3,221
Hi Rose...
My son is an alcoholic/addict and has recently relapsed. I remember before his last bout with sobriety how CRAZY I was!
I tried the "four Ms" mentioned in my Alanon book -
I managed
I manipulated
I monitored and
I martyred
I found another set of letters MUCH more helpful - the 3Cs:
I cannot CAUSE addiction
I cannot CONTROL addiction
I cannot CURE addiction
I 'got' those 3Cs intellectually... right from the get go. But I didn't "get" how to apply them in a practical meaningful way until I messed up time and time again. It seems I needed to learn from experience.
So, when my son "went back out", this time - I was sad... very sad. And I will slip occassionally into "awfulizing" and "future tripping", but I increase my attendance at Alanon, because it was there that I learned how to act and react to the addicts/alcoholics in my life... and they are the best resource for me.
I started with 1 meeting per week, but I increased my number of meetings per week.
I hope you can find some Alanon meetings... they helped me very much.
My son is an alcoholic/addict and has recently relapsed. I remember before his last bout with sobriety how CRAZY I was!
I tried the "four Ms" mentioned in my Alanon book -
I managed
I manipulated
I monitored and
I martyred
I found another set of letters MUCH more helpful - the 3Cs:
I cannot CAUSE addiction
I cannot CONTROL addiction
I cannot CURE addiction
I 'got' those 3Cs intellectually... right from the get go. But I didn't "get" how to apply them in a practical meaningful way until I messed up time and time again. It seems I needed to learn from experience.
So, when my son "went back out", this time - I was sad... very sad. And I will slip occassionally into "awfulizing" and "future tripping", but I increase my attendance at Alanon, because it was there that I learned how to act and react to the addicts/alcoholics in my life... and they are the best resource for me.
I started with 1 meeting per week, but I increased my number of meetings per week.
I hope you can find some Alanon meetings... they helped me very much.
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