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PJ wow 3 hours is a long walk. You and Roxy will be fit as a fiddle. :D |
I remember George Best, Mags. There was a similar (though not as dramatic) situation with a media personality here. We see it. I see it in my daughter too, but there’s no way to block her path, just look how we went despite our parents. Crazy. |
Originally Posted by Calmerwaters
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Oh Long story short, I’m kind of giving up on relationships with my kids and family. I feel very lonely and isolated, no matter when I reach out. My son has anger issues and that feels like eggshells too. I feel like he wants me to over mother him. Like I still should be interested in going to watch him play sports etc. it’s too much. I want adult relationships with my children, but after 7-9 years of recovery, I’m kind of giving up. My rock is my best friend who really puts it well that our kids are just caught up in their lives and I guess it’s their business to reflect on lost opportunities at a later date when we are gone. We can only try. But accepting the line of what I can change and what I can’t is a daily mantra. just sharing my path here, and thank you for sharing yours, PJ and Mags xx |
Hi everyone , congrats on anniversaries I’ve missed. The TWINS. Crois & Bob. hope you are feeling better Bob. Im just at the end of COVID. Been doing a lot of sober reading. Glad you and Roxy are getting in walks pj such a shame we don’t have the relationships with our kids that we wish for. Things are too late to change now. As my psych said ‘ this may be their life lesson to learn once I have gone ‘ . sad to think that way , but family isn’t close like it used to be. Everything is done by texting and impersonal messages . im glad I was born in the 60s . I hope you are all well. I think of you all the time , my dear friends xx |
You should be asleep, dear Snooz; rest and heal. :hug: ❤️ |
Hiya Suze xx I usually sleep when Shaun comes home about 4.30am. How’s things with you love. Do you still have your cute little garden with pots of flowers xx x |
I have a massive garden with a zillion plants, inside as well. :) I am flat-out with my copyediting course. Doing two classes right now, and I have five assignments and an exam this week. Oy. :) Sending you oodles of healing love :kiss: |
You have all your ducks in a row sweetheart. So proud of you xxx |
Go Suze. Funeral tomorrow ...ugh...seeing relatives not seen for years who probably have heard something of my history but want to pry. Last in, first out....my estranged bro may be there...double ugh.... |
Thinking of you, dearest John. We will go with you. :hug: s ❤️ I don't know about the row part Snoozy love; more like I have ducks all over the show, and I have no hope of herding them. :) |
funeral ok sat with my sil, bros wife...first meet in over 10y |
You did great, John. :hug: ❤️ |
I’m up late but wanted to say it was great to see you post, Snooz. Much love. Hope you are ok.xx Brave, John. Baby steps, big steps, sideways steps, backward steps…we are all learning to dance in our own way. Awkward and clumsy though it may be. |
Indeed, dear CW. :) :hug: ❤️ |
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Hiya Mags, how’s the house move going love xx John you did so well even to turn up. So proud of you . That was a big step xxx xx |
and today an uncle died... |
So sorry for your loss PJ :hug: Snoozy, not signed contracts yet but at least they found the deeds. The sellers solicitor had them after all. :dunno: so hoping things will start moving in the next few weeks. |
Here's hoping, Mags. |
Hiya Classmates :wave: Hope you’re all well. :grouphug: https://i.postimg.cc/kgrsYSTr/EB7-E1...F8-A967-D4.jpg |
Hi Mags |
Hiya Classmates:wave: Have a good weekend. It’s bank holiday weekend here in England. Which doesn’t affect me now I don’t work. Used to love long weekends when I was working though. https://i.postimg.cc/K85kYJfd/7-B075...6337-B47-F.jpg |
Have fun Mags :) D |
Took Roxy along to a meeting yesterday., kept her in the car, but encouraged to bring her inside. Extremely well behaved and was welcomed warmly. First meeting in many weeks . The depression and anxiety still very strong. I make myself do stuff anyways. Always exhausting and always feel sick, in pain....but being alive, not just surviving means making an effort. 7 years to the day since the burns trauma because of my drinking. Perhaps not surprisingly not feeling the best. Time to take her ladyship for a walk.Attached Imageshttps://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...7-dogalert.jpg |
I hope things will get better for you again soon PJ. D |
I'll live Dee. In a message to a cousin today I wrote it was 7yeatrs to the day that my burns happened . She asked me what was I doing today to celebrate 7y of life. Rather puts a new perspective of stuff. |
Your name says it all PJ, you rose from the ashes. You lived through it my friend. :Valdog: |
Just a garden variety alcoholic whose story was a tad dramatic. |
90m physio, assessment / treatment . They (uni student under supervision ) focussed 90% on my back, not the leg. I know my back is so twisted and effed it takes a lot of pressure applied by the physio on 'knotted' muscles for it to be effective. It hurts to the point of feeling quite sick, but if I can tolerate dressing chamges on burns, this stuff is ok. Going to the uni campus- twinges of sadness...I enjoyed being a nursing lecturer, before my drinking destroyed it. The physio worked amazingly well. The cost is $10, as opposed to $150 in a private physio practice. Yesterday I managed maybe 3km walking over 3 walks. Today Rox and I did 18k in 1 walk. And I feel ok. Always with music- Evanescense and War of the Worlds (Richard Burton). I get a blessed few hours with the memories that cause me so much distress drowned out....but I remain always grateful for life, tainted as it is by perpetual sadness. I keep moving, trying, fighting. The shop swapped over the cables with little fuss. The bank retreived all the money scammed from my account, more than enough to pay my energy bill. Came home from walk. Tended to Rox's food first. Put my food on to cook. Came into lounge. She has taken over half the big couch, pushed my back supporting cushion out o the way and fallen asleep. First time she has done this. Attached Imageshttps://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...ho-dogsofa.jpg |
Hiya Classmates. :wave: Hope you’re all well. :grouphug: PJ, so pleased the bank got your cash back. I love Richard Burton War of the Worlds, brilliant! Gorgeous pic of Roxy Lady., I heard Bryan Ferry on the radio yesterday and thought of Roxy. :) Hope it’s a good weekend for all of us, whe’re we may wander. ❤️ https://i.postimg.cc/x18Kpnbm/C28-C1...894-CC7650.jpg |
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