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abcowboy, so good to hear from you and know that you are well! Some great shares today. So many of us suffered or are suffering from self-esteem issues. I heard “you are not smart enough”, “you will never be able to accomplish that”, “you are not tall enough”, “you are not pretty enough” so very often that, “when I looked in the mirror”, that is exactly what I saw - not enough. Rising above all that negativity took time. Even when I started my sober journey, a family member told me that I would never be able to do it. I remember that old insecurity creeping back in. I kept a small note on my refrigerator that simply said “Oh no? Just watch me”. It stayed there a long time but success felt so sweet as did my other successes in life. |
Checking in for 24. |
Count me in, please. Congrats to our Milestoners, abcowboy and H379. :cheer :hb3, abcowboy. You are all so very loved. |
I miss Gilmer so much. . I suspect that we will all see her, each in our own special little places, as we navigate a world without her. I’ll Be For Gilmer I’ll be the wind which howls in caves and storms And shifts the sands upon the shore And the pile of autumn leaves which forms In the cozy nook outside your door I’ll be the sun which warms your heart and mind And the dream you pause to find I’ll be The delicate butterfly in your garden As it savors dew and scent and nectar The first snowflake born of winter As it floats to seek a kindred spirit Or a tiny bud in spring’s display As it strains, then yields to warmth of day I’ll be The vapor trail behind the silver bird As it seeks a distant shore And the eagle as it spans the skies For food and prey of earth I’ll be the stars which dot the skies at night And the moon which gives you light. I’ll be The music born of laughter Of those too young to yet know pain The dance of youth and of blissful lovers And the life and rhythm of the rain I’ll be the awe in hearts of mothers With love impossible to contain I’ll be The foam upon the ocean As it churns and twists and curls And the rocks which rise majestically From the depths of ocean’s floor And the boom and echo of the thunder Which seeks to equal ocean’s roar I’ll be The moment you pause to listen To the screams of nothingness in beggars’ eyes And become aware that - if you can ignore them They become all of us in disguise I’ll be that moment in time and space When we begin to see each other in all we face I’ll be The lonely shoe along the roadway And those who ponder its strange fate Or the lonely soul who has lost his way And looks for comfort at your gate And I’ll be the door which opens gently If you’re that soul who seeks reprieve I’ll be The warmth which gives you comfort And the love which brings you home The thoughts that keep you warm at night And the place you rest your head And I’ll be the rains on the horizons Which are the tears you’ve yet to shed |
Good morning beautiful people I just came from a breakfast with my sponsor and gratitude meeting, what a great way to start the week, love to all . Please another 24 hrs. Of freedom from alcohol freedom from drugs. |
Hello dear erfra. :hug: ♥♥ |
Originally Posted by venuscat
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Not responding directly to this....but if you want to do that, I will be by your side every step of the way. :hug: I missed what you said before about possibly seeing a psychiatric nurse for medication. I didn't know that was possible. If it is, gosh, why not go and see her/him and try this. At least get another opinion. What an enlightened idea. :hug: On the flip side I made a large, fat snowman with my boys this morning. It was nice to be outside. Going to work in a bit which allows me to get out of my head and be of service to others. Xoxo |
So where is the photo of the snowman????? :biggrin: (I'll show you mine....they are not made of snow though :)). You are not being negative at all: glad you made the appt. That is the exact opposite of negative..... :) :hug: ♥♥ |
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Originally Posted by venuscat
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So where is the photo of the snowman????? :biggrin: (I'll show you mine....they are not made of snow though :)). You are not being negative at all: glad you made the appt. That is the exact opposite of negative..... :) :hug: ♥♥ https://i.postimg.cc/q7NsQ6xd/4-DC9-...ED74-ABBAD.jpg |
Oh wow.....that is FANTASTIC!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :) This one os on the outside of the apartment door....still inside (the vestibule). https://i.imgur.com/ZuG1XAu.jpg |
Love the snowmen! |
Originally Posted by quitter62
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Haven’t been popping in here much lately but am alive and well and doing great. Working without pay until this government shutdown is over. That is a bit unsettling if this continues for much longer. And KENTON.... if you see this, we LOVE your posts! I think you are a great storyteller and Funny too. 24 More is the Plan of the Day! Praying this is over soon....like tomorrow please. :hug: (Not meaning to be political here guys, at all.... :grouphug: ) |
Originally Posted by abcowboy
(Post 7098559)
I haven’t been an avid poster here on SR since I came back mainly because of time issues, but that being said, I remember what my Uncle told me; you have to spend as much time on your recovery as you did drinking if you want to be successful. So I guess I just need to make the time to contribute more here… I’ll have to get y'all to fill me in on the guidelines for posting on this thread, I do know we don’t “shotgun” here lol. But what is and isn’t acceptable to post? So not knowing that for now, I’ll just post away. That hit very close to home for me kenton, as I’m sure it does for many of us here. I tend to be a “shoot from the hip” kind of guy, taking a tough love approach to helping others find lasting sobriety. Because of this, a lot of people won’t like what I post, but my posts are meant to help and support, not demean in any way. And like you, I wanted and needed people to “like” me. But “Thanks” and “Likes” are only buttons, it would take me all day just to go through the threads and “Thank” every one of them. I definitely don’t have time for that lol. Many of us suffer/suffered from self-esteem issues, things that can be traced back to our childhoods, some that might have just occurred in the past week or so. I know when I went to see my counsellor at the beginning of my final quit, I confessed to her that self-esteem was one of my issues. She told me that she couldn’t do anything for me in that regard, self-esteem comes from within, and no amount of praise from ordinary people or professional people alike wouldn’t be able to change how I thought of myself, it had to come from within. The first thing she told me was the old saying, “what other people think of me is none of my business” and how true that is! We can kill ourselves just trying to please others. The second thing she told me, do a pro and con list on myself, how I felt about myself. Don’t put down things that I think how other people view me, but how I view myself as a person. Then she said to focus on my pro’s through daily life and try to improve my cons whenever I had the chance. It was an amazing exercise and one that helped me accept myself for who I am. And it also gave me the chance to work on the areas I know I need improvement on. I still do this even 4 years later! Give it a try, I’m sure you’ll find that you’re a much better person than you give yourself credit for! Otherwise, we are 100% able to talk about anything we want that falls within the rules of SR....and is considerate to others. Obviously, some things might be more suited to different forums like the mens or womens for really deep intimate discussions....but we have no issues here at all. And everyone is heard. Always. Even if it did take me a while to respond to this post: I am having a busy day. :) Massive hugs dear friend. :hug: ♥♥ |
Good morning 24 please 7.39 am in Auss |
Goodnight Guys :grouphug: |
Nite love. :hug: ♥ |
This is a wonderful place, filled (mostly) with love & acceptance. I'm so glad we're all here together. :ring Please give me another 24! :) |
Hi everyone, 24 more please. It’s Monday morning here, 7.30am and the start of my 8 monthiversary. After feeling all weird and sad and flat the last few days, I’ve woken up in a better frame of mind this morning :) Leigh, that was absolutely beautiful ❤️ Sunny, I think not fitting in is a very common feeling, more common than many people realise. So we’re all not fitting in together, which is kind of funny in a way. We’re all actually bound together by what we think makes us different❤️ :grouphug: Jo :hug: H379, I felt that. A lot. That feeling of things not being right and feeling spaced out but unable to pinpoint what is wrong. It came and went in my early sobriety. I had all sorts of weird feelings, physically (aches, pains, pounding heart, headaches, weakness) and emotionally (sad, bleak, guilt, despair, anxiety) and mentally (detachment, zoned/spaced out, memory loss, inability to remember words) etc. I’m at 8 months now and it is getting easier. Hang in there. We’re all in this together :grouphug: |
Hanging on for another 24! :c017: |
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