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Wascally, Thinking of you today and wishing you a Happy Mother's Day. Hugs, Marle |
My thoughts and prayers go out to you today too, WW, let's just hope we connect with our children in spirit today and that they know they are loved. Hugs |
****{Thinking of you}}} |
Originally Posted by Sunflower
(Post 1329555)
OK I don't get it--are we playing little kid games here? --I shared with everyone my own personal knowledge and experience as an RN don't worry I won't give anymore ofmy personal experiences as a mother or a nurse anylonger. My son is sober I don't need to be here anymore to be subjected to this crap. If I post I will just use the standard around her''''''you are wonderful-take care of you'''''' Sorry wabbit that this happened to your post when you are already dealing with so much pressure.......PM me if you want to talk to an adult. A person with an addict in the family must take care of themselves first. If they call the hospital everytime there addict is kicked out of a facility, mentally ill or not, all that happens is the relative gets thrown right back into the drama. In many cases, such as with my addicted mother, she will then know that I will do something for her if she calls in the future. This is MY personal experience, and I am an adult. |
hi wabbit, I cannot offer you advise but I can offer you a suggestion. Please invest in a phone call to Bridges Of Hope and see if your son can go there. It is an honest, caring facility,(12 step) BUT the addict must be willing to go there. my son is doing well after six months clean. I just feel led to ask you to consider a phone call to this facility.....dixie (You will be in my prayers) |
Aww ((( Wascally ))) it is so darn hard to deal with. There are many great ideas posted and sometimes we need to do what feels right in our heart and gut. You have my prayers, encouragement and support. Our addicts don't know how to " be there" for themselves let alone Moms on Mother's Day. Happy Mother's Day. |
(((((WW))))) http://i81.photobucket.com/albums/j2...th5c6b0a15.jpg Hope your time with your mom was special. This is the gift I gave myself today... http://i81.photobucket.com/albums/j2...ilCADN6WEP.jpg |
((((((((((((((((WW)))))))))))) I hope you had a good time at your moms and a nice Mother's Day. I know exactly where your at with your son. I was at that same place a month ago with my AD who's 21 and now again in recovery. She was using again and intent on doing bodily harm to herself and ended up in the mental health unit for a few days till she sorted herself out. She made the decision to go there not me. It was one of a few options she had that night. Coming home was one option she didn't have at that time. It was a locked unit and they searched everything I brought to her, but I wasn't searched and I don't think her friends who went to see her were either. If the patients acted out they were sedated but not kicked out. It is very hard to not get caught up in their drama and not taking their calls is one way to do it. Do you go to meetings? If you go you'll get a phone list and boy does it come in handy sometimes. Especially when the drama lama is going strong. When she yells I walk away, when things get really bad I reach for the phone. Meetings, phone lists and forums are all great ways to take care of you and right now taking care of YOU is very important. Your son has to find his own way to recovery, you can't do it for him. If parents could drag their kids into recovery, there wouldn't be many people on here would there???????? |
You are in my prayers. I am in a similar situation and am at my wits end. I am grateful for the wisdon shared. Happy Mothers Day to each of you. /M |
1 Attachment(s) Wabbit---thanks for the PM I am glad in some small way I was able to help you out. If you want to talk further you can PM me again. I appreciate your wisdom-openmindedness and compassion. I hope you had peace today and enjoyed Mothers Day--you so deserve it,,,,,, |
WW, I understand your pain. No one can say that anything works absolutely and always - there are many, many variables. I have learned the hard way, believe me, that I have to decide what works for me. I cannot have a front-row seat to my addict daughter's addiction and subsequent behavior. I have learned that, for me! And I have definately realized that I cannot save her from herself. I cannot control her addictive behavior; I can only control how much it controls me. You are not alone; we are all in this together and we all try to share what has worked or not worked for us through our own experiences. None of us are here to judge. And none of us has all the answers. Take care of you and do what you feel you need to do so you don't become as sick or sicker than your addict. :Val004: |
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