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I’m as bad as he is So in prep for getting out of here, vomit boy is starting to feel the effects of withdrawal. He wants soda, he wants to reconcile, will I drive him to get beer....and he can’t find his keys. His car keys are safe away. I have to protect myself and property. So he asks me if I have them and I lied. I told him I don’t know where they are. He said if you have them just tell me, letting me keep searching is just cruel if you have them. So I lied AND I’m cruel. If I had spoken truthfully, god knows there would have been a huge problem. As it is I’m keeping away and quiet in prep for tomorrow getaway. So, I’m as bad as him. I lied to protect myself instead of an addiction. I have got a lot of work to do on myself. |
It occurs to me I’m very self protective. Not a good place to be if one wishes to be married...just a thought. |
You lied to protect the world from a drunk driver. That’s okay. You lied to protect yourself from a massive argument with a drunk guy who wants alcohol at any cost. I think that’s okay, too. Can you just leave? |
Originally Posted by Ariesagain
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You lied to protect the world from a drunk driver. That’s okay. You lied to protect yourself from a massive argument with a drunk guy who wants alcohol at any cost. I think that’s okay, too. Can you just leave? |
Originally Posted by Dazedandconfus
(Post 7226864)
right now I have no place to go. I’ve already spent so much money on hotels. I’m quietly away from him right now with the door closed. He’s quiet as well. I have plans to leave tomorrow morning. May tomorrow come quick! |
Thinking of you and hoping you are doing well today! |
Originally Posted by hopeful4
(Post 7227358)
Thinking of you and hoping you are doing well today! |
I am so very glad you are safe and well! I hope for his own sake that he gets into recovery, but I absolutely understand how you feel. My XAH was willing to do anything when I told him we were splitting. Of course, it never would have lasted. I was in the same boat. I did not ever want to go through that again, and refuse to put myself at that risk again, ever. You have the right to focus on YOU!!! I think you are very brave to do what you are doing, and to come here and share. You certainly do not ever have to thank me. SR is a place of great support. I know it got me through some of my darkest days. Sending huge hugs! |
Originally Posted by hopeful4
(Post 7227378)
I am so very glad you are safe and well! I hope for his own sake that he gets into recovery, but I absolutely understand how you feel. My XAH was willing to do anything when I told him we were splitting. Of course, it never would have lasted. I was in the same boat. I did not ever want to go through that again, and refuse to put myself at that risk again, ever. You have the right to focus on YOU!!! I think you are very brave to do what you are doing, and to come here and share. You certainly do not ever have to thank me. SR is a place of great support. I know it got me through some of my darkest days. Sending huge hugs! |
Originally Posted by Dazedandconfus
(Post 7227385)
thank you. Yes, I can not do this again, and I don’t want the risk either. I too hope he can recover for his own self, but I’ve seen this before and it will not last. I just need it to last 6 months ....then I’m totally free of it. Did he sign the papers? IIRC if he ignored them you could have an uncontested divorce in 30 days? |
Yes, default divorce in 30 days. But we have a 6 month waiting period until it’s final. |
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