Stay in your house. My AXBF trashed my house too when I chose to leave once for a WEEK. Holes in the walls and everything. It was really hard to get him out eventually and when I did, I had to get all his stuff (lots, he was pretty much a hoarder) moved too. And do all the cleaning and repairing of the walls etc in order to sell it. But luckily I was able to get him out and get what I wanted for the house and make a profit. None of which is his. We were never married and the house was mine. The profit was used to pay off debt accumulated supporting his a** but that’s another story.
Moral of the story: Don’t leave an active addict in charge of a home you wish to sell.
Best wishes to you! I empathize, I’m a single mom of a 3 y.o. boy now. :)