Swimming with sharks
 

Today would have been our 12 year anniversary. Actually we were together about 20 years. Hmmm....a guy who takes 8 years to commit, how did I miss that red flag?!?

It's so strange to think 12 years ago we were married on the beach and I thought we'd have the happily ever after. He was most likely already an alcoholic by then but it took me 9 years to figure that out.

He said I could decide what we did the day after our wedding, the 1st day of our married life together. I decided we should swim with sharks. So there I am, all alone in a cage in the middle of the ocean with sharks circling. The perfect metaphor for life with an alcoholic.

And the real kicker...we were out looking in the touristy shops and I bought him a T-shirt that said, "Will trade wife for beer." Little did I know....

Lucy.....OMG......I have to agree....the metaphors are just toooo ironic!!

dandylion

And your T-shirt read "will trade life for beer drinker"? No offense-- all really funny things have tragedy in them...'tis why we laugh (so we don't cry). I'm only at the beginning of the surgery to remove my still-drunk partner from my life. I'm an alcoholic too if I drink so I don't. Our stories probably end in similarity with life before but the mid and aftermath is playing out the same. I'm spending a lot more time on this side lately and commend you all on your struggles and victories. Congrats.

With that title I immediately thought of my job and coworkers lol

Progress, not perfection! You are no longer around sharks nor around unhealthy people. I say that is a reason to celebrate!! a new chapter in your life. :)

Now I'm wondering what activity you should have suggested the day after your wedding.

Building sand castles would have also set you up for a metaphorical disaster.

Sun tanning? Nope... you could get "burned".

Maybe you should have just gone to Vegas. It's all a gamble anyway.