Back from court: Separation in place
 

Hi, my wonderful friends and sisters/brothers in arms--just wanted to make a quick post: I filed for divorce back in November, then after a consultation w/a lawyer, decided along w/my A that we'd make it a legal separation instead. This has the advantages of A)still separating me from him financially as well as getting the house (which I brought to the marriage) back in my name and B)I am able to remain on his health insurance as long as he is amenable to this (which is also important, as the "Affordable Health Care" I'd be obligated to buy would cost well over twice as much for the cheapest coverage available).

I have been all over the place emotionally since making the decision in November. I've been unbelievably snowed under at work since we've been shorthanded, working 55-60 hours a week and more on occasion. I'm just damn tired. But now, it seems we have finally hired enough help. I'm looking at working only 3 days this week and 3 days next week, which seems like HEAVEN!

And I worried and fretted so much about the actual filing of the separation. My A and I have no debt and are in agreement about property division, so I checked into a pro se divorce. I found a lawyer who'd do "consult only" to help me make sure I did everything correctly, and with her help, all went smoothly at the courthouse this AM. Fifteen minutes in front of the judge and it's over...just strange.

I'm off for a good hot soak in the tub, then a long session w/my reiki/massage woman, who is an absolute wizard. Tonight, I plan a nice dinner and then perhaps some mandala coloring for relaxation in bed w/my hounds. Just doing every single thing I can to nourish myself right now, as I've been running on empty in so many ways for so long...I'm sure a lot of you can relate to that.

I would never have made it this far w/o SR--my deepest gratitude goes out to all of you for the insight, education, understanding and prayers you've offered over the past 2 years. Thank you.

WTG, honeypig!!!

So glad it's gone smoothly so far, and glad you're getting a chance to rest up. I'm in a crunch at work right now, myself, and I'll be able to breathe for about 10 minutes once this month is over.

Hugs, enjoy your relaxing night!

:You_Rock_

CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!!

What an amazing way to start your spring cleaning! ;)

Seriously though, I know this has been heavily on you so my wish for you today is that you start to feel lighter every day forward from this point.

I LOVE the activities that you have planned for yourself today, THAT's the way to self-care, folks! Woot, woot!!!!
:You_Rock_:scoregood:a122:

Congratulations!!!! You deserve this well-earned rest and peace of mind.

Congratulations! You sound really good. :)

Thank you for the update. I've been wondering about you and how you're doing. I am always amazed by your kindness, compassion and intelligence. You have been such a pillar of strength for so many people. I am glad you're doing well and taking the time to take care of you today.

Thank you, friend, for just being you. Sending much love your way. xoxoxo

Congratulations!

Yay HP! I am so glad it went well!!

Enjoy your much needed R&R!

XXX

I don't know your whole story, but it sounds like you are happy and free to live a better life..wish I was ready...still on the fence with my AH...it is not a fun place to be. So nice to hear that others are doing well.

:You_Rock_

Lovely news HoneyPig! You deserve peace!

You're a power of example that recovery works!

Well done honeypig you definitely deserve some you time and lots of self care. Enjoy your relaxing night and your few days off work

Awesome Honeypig- It's been a long time coming. Who's knows what our future holds. But you will be able to sleep a little sounder tonight.

(((((((((((hugs, you will be ok!!)))))))))))))))

Way to go, so happy for you.:You_Rock_

I'm so glad things went well and even happier to hear how you feel at peace with the outcome!

I wish my state recognized legal separation, I would have gone that route - partly for insurance purposes - too. Good for you planning a nice evening for yourself. You deserve it! (((Hugs)))

wooo hoooo HoneyPig, that is awesome news !!! Your recovery _shines_ !!!

Like the others have said, you rock!!!

Mike :)

I'm very happy for you HP! Enjoy the well deserved rest in the coming days. You are a shining example of recovery!

How are you today Honeypig?

Everything sunk in yet?

You've been patient and careful, so I'm thinking things are feeling good?