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Your boundaries, your rules. It's a bad idea, so don't give in. Enough said. Tell them you are busy and cannot talk anymore today. Be strong! |
Originally Posted by EmmyG
(Post 4736788)
I am in total agreement that grandparents are important. However my parents have always pushed the boundaries with my son. Never with my younger son or with my niece. But with my 6-year-old, they always push and push. Even when he was a baby, they would push me to take him longer than I felt comfortable with. My sister will flat-out day no when she is not comfortable with something, but with me they use guilt and pressure. I feel sometimes like my mom thinks she is his mother. If this was healthy, I wouldn't feel sick from the manipulation I feel coming from my dad. |
That is ridiculous. Think JADE. You do not have to Justify, Argue, Defend or Explain yourself, your feelings nor your decisions. Stick to your decision. |
My dad doesn't like taking no for an answer, but I cannot imagine my parents doing anything like this. Stick to your guns and tell him you're done discussing it. I agree that offering you money is weird and if your aunt is an alcoholic and your mom will be drinking, why the hell would you want your 6-year-old around that? |
I think what is awful is that your parents do NOT respect your answer. No means no, if they want to see BOTH of your children when they return from vacation, that might be fine, in their home for a quick overnight, but this constant harassment towards you is ridicules. Using $$ to bribe you to change your mind is just insulting. And I would tell them so when they return. You are the adult, the parent, not some irresponsible kid. |
Oh what a PIA! No should just be enough with out having to fend off all the manipulations and pressure. It doesn't matter what your reasons are, or why they want to take your son with them, no means no....period. And the offer of money is totally twisted. He's a child, not a commodity. |
The icky thing about the money is my dad knows I am short on money this week so he totally saw it as a manipulation tactic. |
Yes--in light of this extra info it seems like they are trying to step all over your boundary. Sorry you are getting this crap on top of the AH crap you've been dealing with. |
Oh Emmy, I'm so sorry they do this to you. I'm sure they love you, but Jeeeeez. You're welcome to borrow my mother anytime you need to! |
Many folks on this board have previously stated that we teach others how to treat us with our actions. Stand your ground Emmy. Your son, your decision. |
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