OT Facebook drama So my dad posts in my wall "I have an empty feeling as I have not seen you for a while now" I think it has been 2 years since I last saw him. Or maybe 3. He was the one who left decades ago and now that he is near the Polar Circle in Finland he "misses me". I was inclined to post my feelings as a comment but I know FB is not a place for drama. I have my mom, and his wife there as well. Sheesh. Just needed to vent in a safe place. I am tempted to reply "I have missed you for decades, you were the one who decided to leave". But I know this comes from the place where I want revenge, I want him to hurt and I want him to feel abandoned as I have felt all my life. Thanks for listening. |
Anger is a natural feeling. It sounds almost like a death, the death of an ideal you had, something you wanted, but something that cannot be. Let it go. Accept his failure and move on. And shine. |
Oh TC, I am sorry. That must have stung. But good for you for not firing back! I too would have been so tempted. Hugs, ~T |
Thanks friends, that is a tool I learned from you.. it is OK to pause.. it is OK to reflect... it is OK to take time... and not to instantly react. At least now I realize when I am coming from a place of pain and not from my heart. Progress not perfection........ |
My ex therapist used to say that is common--parents taking their decisions then later in older age, finally regretting things and feeling guilt. Same goes for codies/alcoholics, anyone who knows they were not available for their children the way they needed. I know I have to heal this. In fact I feel that healing is the reason I am around. |
Originally Posted by TakingCharge999
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I know I have to heal this. In fact I feel that healing is the reason I am around. Sending you hugs of support. :hug: |
Thank you Freedom, ((((hugs back)))) A long afternoon ahead of me but I know I can be with my feelings, no need for the judgmental mind to interfere with them. Thanks, thanks for letting me share. |
Wait he posted this on your wall, where other people can see it? It sounds like he did that for attention. He could have sent you a PM. But he chose to post it on your wall, where others can see it. |
Yes choublak.. he asks my sister how I am doing.. instead of asking me, directly.... I answered to him "almost 3 decades of absence" ..... God, help me transcend this.... |
He answered "Thank you my dear. How are things going?" What does that mean?? I deleted his entire post.... Unfortunately with some other priorities I haven't had $$ to spend in therapy yet, but I got a number already and hopefully next paycheck I can schedule my appointment.. I have looked forward to it for a long time. |
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