abandoned...
 

My 1st payday since RAH left and I don't know what to do. I don't want to speak to him. He got paid last Friday and gave me the $ for some bills so I don't want to screw him over financially. But I need to know what I should pay if I need to hoard my $ for rent since its just my income now...Part of me feels like why do I even care to pay the things in his name or make sure he has money to stay another week in his scuzball motel. I don't want to be bitter, fair. So I called him at work to discuss logistics and he acted annoyed I called. The car I drive is in his name. I feel I should pay it because I drive it but then it will leave me needing his help next week. I hate going through this all because he couldn't deal. I know we will have to go to court but in interim, don't know what to do...

Perhaps emailing instead of calling. He is annoyed because he has to deal with life. Email strips all emotion, inflection etc and keeps is all business. Just a suggestion!

I tried to email but he always says "later".

What worked for me was focusing on myself and planning how to budget my money.
It wasn't my responsibility to figure out how my AW should budget her money. I am much more content when I keep my focus on my side of the street.

Your friend,

I have to agree with Mike on this one. How about letting him figure this stuff out for a while? See what happens? And worry about you and your own budgetary needs.

Fair is a place we go to ride the rides. And fair often equals some sort of guilt trip we place on ourselves. Try to let that feeling go.

Thanks TG, I really needed to hear that today. I have been trying to be fair with the alimony and it really feels like I'm on some sort of ride, and not a fun one.

Your friend,