Lord help me.....
 

I have fallen in love with ANOTHER alcoholic. I can't believe this. I feel like I have back stepped to the beginning of time again

You have the right to leave the relationship.

Were there any signs that you missed early in the relationship?

remember YOU are different now - you can still change your life - it doesn't have to be the SAME story if you don't want it to be -

NOW you know about the choices you have!!

PINK HUGS to you!

Were their any signs or did he hide it well? They also smell different than a person that does not drink. I am in hopes you are strong enough to let him go. Once is enough for anyone and you deserve better. Even being alone is better than walking into a fire. You have experienced this kind of pain already and know what a toll it takes mentally. You are a good person and deserve good things. Do you have children?

Oh my. I hate to read this. How are you handling it?

Actively drinking?

I have had a few dates with a 7 years in sobriety person. Even that makes me a little anxious.

While I haven't fallen in love with another alcoholic, I found out last summer that one of my friends is a RA. 10 yrs (longer than I've known him). He has been such a strong support. Looking back on the advice and support he's given me through this past year's challenges, I can definitely see the AA influence. He is awesome. Still I was a bit freaked out that I'd 'picked' another alcoholic for support.

I think I can see where my HP is going with this lesson, though. I think not only is my friend here for support, but also here to help me learn a measure of understanding for XAH's alcoholism. I'm not there yet, but I'm willing to admit it's a lesson I need to learn.

I'm not saying that's why this guy has come into your life. And I don't mean to compare a friendship with a love, I know they're worlds away as far as relationships.....

You will get there the uncertainty, and when you do, you will feel hmmm peace? relief?
oh, i just cant think of the right word.
Being willing is all it takes.

Beth

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