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Old 01-13-2011, 12:01 PM
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Lord help me.....

I have fallen in love with ANOTHER alcoholic. I can't believe this. I feel like I have back stepped to the beginning of time again
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You have the right to leave the relationship.
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Old 01-13-2011, 12:19 PM
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Were there any signs that you missed early in the relationship?
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Old 01-13-2011, 12:57 PM
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remember YOU are different now - you can still change your life - it doesn't have to be the SAME story if you don't want it to be -

NOW you know about the choices you have!!

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Old 01-13-2011, 01:08 PM
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Were their any signs or did he hide it well? They also smell different than a person that does not drink. I am in hopes you are strong enough to let him go. Once is enough for anyone and you deserve better. Even being alone is better than walking into a fire. You have experienced this kind of pain already and know what a toll it takes mentally. You are a good person and deserve good things. Do you have children?
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Old 01-13-2011, 01:56 PM
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Oh my. I hate to read this. How are you handling it?
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Old 01-13-2011, 02:04 PM
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Actively drinking?

I have had a few dates with a 7 years in sobriety person. Even that makes me a little anxious.
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Old 01-13-2011, 03:18 PM
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While I haven't fallen in love with another alcoholic, I found out last summer that one of my friends is a RA. 10 yrs (longer than I've known him). He has been such a strong support. Looking back on the advice and support he's given me through this past year's challenges, I can definitely see the AA influence. He is awesome. Still I was a bit freaked out that I'd 'picked' another alcoholic for support.

I think I can see where my HP is going with this lesson, though. I think not only is my friend here for support, but also here to help me learn a measure of understanding for XAH's alcoholism. I'm not there yet, but I'm willing to admit it's a lesson I need to learn.

I'm not saying that's why this guy has come into your life. And I don't mean to compare a friendship with a love, I know they're worlds away as far as relationships.....
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Old 01-13-2011, 03:43 PM
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I'm not there yet, but I'm willing to admit it's a lesson I need to learn.
You will get there the uncertainty, and when you do, you will feel hmmm peace? relief?
oh, i just cant think of the right word.
Being willing is all it takes.

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