I'm surrounded by A's I've been living with my dad for three weeks now since leaving AH and last night I came to the conclusion that my Dad is also an A. Luckily enough I don't feel all the same stuff that I feel with H. I don't have anger or resentment. If anything I have compassion for him. I guess that's because I haven't been living with him for years and I won't have to spend the rest of my life living with him either. If anything it's just a really sad realization. :c020: |
That's so sad Brklyn. Keep yourself save - I mean - don't get pulled in, same rules apply. Hugs to you from the other side of the Outerbridge Crossing |
Accepting that someone we love and care for is an alcoholic is a real sad blow. I like what Chrris said - same rules apply as w/ BF. I grew up surrounded by As. (dad, 3 bros, uncles, cousins, friends) It took me a long time to realize there was only one way to cope (for me): To take care of myself - and work the recovery I wish they were working! When you were growing up was your dad drinking? An alcoholic parent pre-disposes us to a lot of unhealthy habits of mind.....some of the biggest strides I made in my codie recovery was when I went to some ACOA AlAnon meetings, did some ACOA workbooks and talked about it in therapy. Boy was that eye-opening! ((((((hugs)))))) peace B |
Originally Posted by Bernadette
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Accepting that someone we love and care for is an alcoholic is a real sad blow. I like what Chrris said - same rules apply as w/ BF. I grew up surrounded by As. (dad, 3 bros, uncles, cousins, friends) It took me a long time to realize there was only one way to cope (for me): To take care of myself - and work the recovery I wish they were working! When you were growing up was your dad drinking? An alcoholic parent pre-disposes us to a lot of unhealthy habits of mind.....some of the biggest strides I made in my codie recovery was when I went to some ACOA AlAnon meetings, did some ACOA workbooks and talked about it in therapy. Boy was that eye-opening! ((((((hugs)))))) peace B PS I just started going Al- anon and I get it the concepts but I'm still struggling with it. I always feel like an outsider. I'm not very good in social situations and hate the end of the meeting. It seems like everyone gets up and talks with everyone else. I usually just leave since I don't have anyone to talk to. I know that's more about my social phobia than anything else but it still makes me uncomfortable. |
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