I'm surrounded by A's
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I'm surrounded by A's
I've been living with my dad for three weeks now since leaving AH and last night I came to the conclusion that my Dad is also an A. Luckily enough I don't feel all the same stuff that I feel with H. I don't have anger or resentment. If anything I have compassion for him. I guess that's because I haven't been living with him for years and I won't have to spend the rest of my life living with him either. If anything it's just a really sad realization.
Accepting that someone we love and care for is an alcoholic is a real sad blow.
I like what Chrris said - same rules apply as w/ BF.
I grew up surrounded by As. (dad, 3 bros, uncles, cousins, friends) It took me a long time to realize there was only one way to cope (for me):
To take care of myself - and work the recovery I wish they were working!
When you were growing up was your dad drinking? An alcoholic parent pre-disposes us to a lot of unhealthy habits of mind.....some of the biggest strides I made in my codie recovery was when I went to some ACOA AlAnon meetings, did some ACOA workbooks and talked about it in therapy. Boy was that eye-opening!
((((((hugs))))))
peace
B
I like what Chrris said - same rules apply as w/ BF.
I grew up surrounded by As. (dad, 3 bros, uncles, cousins, friends) It took me a long time to realize there was only one way to cope (for me):
To take care of myself - and work the recovery I wish they were working!
When you were growing up was your dad drinking? An alcoholic parent pre-disposes us to a lot of unhealthy habits of mind.....some of the biggest strides I made in my codie recovery was when I went to some ACOA AlAnon meetings, did some ACOA workbooks and talked about it in therapy. Boy was that eye-opening!
((((((hugs))))))
peace
B
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Join Date: Aug 2010
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Accepting that someone we love and care for is an alcoholic is a real sad blow.
I like what Chrris said - same rules apply as w/ BF.
I grew up surrounded by As. (dad, 3 bros, uncles, cousins, friends) It took me a long time to realize there was only one way to cope (for me):
To take care of myself - and work the recovery I wish they were working!
When you were growing up was your dad drinking? An alcoholic parent pre-disposes us to a lot of unhealthy habits of mind.....some of the biggest strides I made in my codie recovery was when I went to some ACOA AlAnon meetings, did some ACOA workbooks and talked about it in therapy. Boy was that eye-opening!
((((((hugs))))))
peace
B
I like what Chrris said - same rules apply as w/ BF.
I grew up surrounded by As. (dad, 3 bros, uncles, cousins, friends) It took me a long time to realize there was only one way to cope (for me):
To take care of myself - and work the recovery I wish they were working!
When you were growing up was your dad drinking? An alcoholic parent pre-disposes us to a lot of unhealthy habits of mind.....some of the biggest strides I made in my codie recovery was when I went to some ACOA AlAnon meetings, did some ACOA workbooks and talked about it in therapy. Boy was that eye-opening!
((((((hugs))))))
peace
B
PS I just started going Al- anon and I get it the concepts but I'm still struggling with it. I always feel like an outsider. I'm not very good in social situations and hate the end of the meeting. It seems like everyone gets up and talks with everyone else. I usually just leave since I don't have anyone to talk to. I know that's more about my social phobia than anything else but it still makes me uncomfortable.
Last edited by BklynGrl; 08-27-2010 at 11:21 AM. Reason: PS
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