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Taking a breath Hi all, Its been a long time since I have enjoyed a Saturday with my spouse. It is part of another plan on his part. "I will drink only everyother weekend." He has said this before so I didn't have alot of heart in it---- but this tme he did it. It was such a good weekend. To the doc today...... I was a total mess the last time I saw him. He has been a good support to me. Comes up with some good ideas......a little bit of light in this lonely experience. |
although grateful for my weekend.....the situation was very short lived. He stopped at the package store on the way home from dessert out. UUUGGGHHH. I have stsrted to think like a substance abuse counselor again which I think can be a good thing. I kind of lost that ability to get some distance and think better about things. Just being able to share this is helpful. I feel some relief. |
Hi Pup, What do you mean a dessert out? |
Amazing how quickly a nice day with an "A" can go to h*ll in a handbasket. That's just the way it is, I hope you have the patience to deal with it, I didn't! |
Just know he can't bargain with alcoholism - it pretty much tells him when he'll drink. Keep posting Puppy. The strength will come. |
Famous last words "only everyother weekend." I've never seen it work before and I've personally tried similar strategies. Concrete boundaries? Same action =same consequence every time? You don't have to put up with it. |
In George Orwell's "Animal Farm", one of the rules written on the barn wall at the start, is "No animal shall sleep in a bed". Later two added words changed the rule entirely. Those words? Without sheets. A's do this all the time, either adding to promises or removing a word or two along the way, until we can't recall the exact wording at the start. Your AH said, "I will drink only every other weekend." Wait a short while and if you remind him of this, the answer will be "I told you, I would drink only every weekend." But you really didn't expect it would work this time anyway, so Saturday was a bonus. God bless |
n George Orwell's "Animal Farm", one of the rules written on the barn wall at the start, is "No animal shall sleep in a bed". Later two added words changed the rule entirely. Those words? Without sheets. A's do this all the time, either adding to promises or removing a word or two along the way, until we can't recall the exact wording at the start. Well no more shots of Yager, just beer and not before 4:00, ok 3 alright 12 and that's it. I promise. |
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