Taking a breath
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Taking a breath
Hi all,
Its been a long time since I have enjoyed a Saturday with my spouse. It is part of another plan on his part. "I will drink only everyother weekend." He has said this before so I didn't have alot of heart in it---- but this tme he did it. It was such a good weekend.
To the doc today...... I was a total mess the last time I saw him. He has been a good support to me. Comes up with some good ideas......a little bit of light in this lonely experience.
Its been a long time since I have enjoyed a Saturday with my spouse. It is part of another plan on his part. "I will drink only everyother weekend." He has said this before so I didn't have alot of heart in it---- but this tme he did it. It was such a good weekend.
To the doc today...... I was a total mess the last time I saw him. He has been a good support to me. Comes up with some good ideas......a little bit of light in this lonely experience.
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although grateful for my weekend.....the situation was very short lived. He stopped at the package store on the way home from dessert out. UUUGGGHHH. I have stsrted to think like a substance abuse counselor again which I think can be a good thing. I kind of lost that ability to get some distance and think better about things. Just being able to share this is helpful.
I feel some relief.
I feel some relief.
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Famous last words "only everyother weekend." I've never seen it work before and I've personally tried similar strategies. Concrete boundaries? Same action =same consequence every time? You don't have to put up with it.
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In George Orwell's "Animal Farm", one of the rules written on the barn wall at the start, is
"No animal shall sleep in a bed".
Later two added words changed the rule entirely. Those words? Without sheets.
A's do this all the time, either adding to promises or removing a word or two along the way, until we can't recall the exact wording at the start.
Your AH said, "I will drink only every other weekend."
Wait a short while and if you remind him of this, the answer will be "I told you, I would drink only every weekend."
But you really didn't expect it would work this time anyway, so Saturday was a bonus.
God bless
"No animal shall sleep in a bed".
Later two added words changed the rule entirely. Those words? Without sheets.
A's do this all the time, either adding to promises or removing a word or two along the way, until we can't recall the exact wording at the start.
Your AH said, "I will drink only every other weekend."
Wait a short while and if you remind him of this, the answer will be "I told you, I would drink only every weekend."
But you really didn't expect it would work this time anyway, so Saturday was a bonus.
God bless
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n George Orwell's "Animal Farm", one of the rules written on the barn wall at the start, is
"No animal shall sleep in a bed".
Later two added words changed the rule entirely. Those words? Without sheets.
A's do this all the time, either adding to promises or removing a word or two along the way, until we can't recall the exact wording at the start.
"No animal shall sleep in a bed".
Later two added words changed the rule entirely. Those words? Without sheets.
A's do this all the time, either adding to promises or removing a word or two along the way, until we can't recall the exact wording at the start.
Well no more shots of Yager, just beer and not before 4:00, ok 3 alright 12 and that's it. I promise.
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