I had those same thoughts as well. I'll start going to meetings, that'll impress them at the courthouse.

Luckily for me, I started going and listening to what was being said. The first meeting when, I actually said, I'm an alcoholic, the game was over. I admitted and shortly there after, I accepted, I was an alcoholic.

The humbling process of getting help, requires people to ask for a ride to a meeting. People in AA are happy to take people to and from meetings.

Don't enable him at all. Make him have to figure out how to get to and from places with out your help.

You do see that this is still enabling.....right?

He needs to find his own ride to work and to meetings or else he is not taking full responsibility for anything.

Who cares if there is a liquor store next to his work? He can walk over on break if he wants to.....you dropping him off doesn't force him to stay at work... Anymore than taking him to the grocery store forces him to buy groceries. If he wants to drink he will drink..... You cannot control that.

Try and set some more boundries for yourself and your daughter. :)

You will feel much better if you do (((())))

At least he is making some effort, I mean, he is going to AA meetings. He sounds like he is on the right track.

tib

Making an effort....
If he is like my EXAH he is making an effort to make himself look good
in court.
Master manipulation is the name of his game.:jail

If he wants to drink, he'll find a way to drink. If he really wants to work or go to meetings, he can find a way for this too, how much effort has he put into his drinking? I'm concerned about your lil girl, I hope you find some strength that will not keep her in this situation. Stop the enabling, save your lil one.. he's got to figure out his part.