My relationship with my alcoholic friend is now over
 

I posted a long time ago about a man I became very close to. I supported him through his rehab and after. We would talk for hours-so much in common but the alcholism. After he got out of rehab looking very healthy, I detached for a number of reasons. He was also seeing another woman at the same time claiming it was platonic with her. I could handle the drinking and recovery issue better then the "other" woman. I got a call yesterday that my friend is in hospice in the very hospital I visited him during his rehab but now he will never go home. He is dying from liver failure less then 9 months after re-hab. I can only assume he started drinking right away. He didn't have a job except once a month. I was told his daughter is there devistated. The last I knew their relationship was strained after the second DUI. Also present at the hospital was the other woman that he claimed he was not exclusive with. I was the during the week companion or when he couldn't go up there. This is his time to be with his child during the last hours or days he has left unless that relationship was much more than he was claiming which I suspect it was. Apparently my instsincts were right about her since she is still in the picture after all this time. I did give up on him and now I have to deal with the what if's and if only's. When around me he did not get exposure to alcohol ever because I don't drink so I guess the disease was just too much for him to overcome.

Yeah, it really sucks. My brother has been firmly in the grasp of alcoholism for 30 odd years, haven't talked to him in 3 years or so, he hasn't seen any of his family in god knows how long. Never met my son, who's now 17 1/2, nor four nieces/nephews. How f***ed up is that? I just ended a relationship with a woman who's been on that road for over a decade, based on everything I've seen I could easily outlive her, she's 23 years younger than me. I tell myself over and over, I can't do anything about it. My brother's been told, by us and the system, I told HER over and over again. All I can do. My thoughts go out to you. There is nothing you can do beyond telling them.

This is his time to live his life exactly as he wants. I got nothing but heartache when I tried to control anyone but myself.

I'm sorry you are hurting.

My friend lost his battle with alcoholism
 

My friend passed away at 2:00 PM today.

I hope he is at peace.

I hope you'll be able to find peace, too. Did you ever try Alanon? You may still find it helpful.

I am sorry for your loss. I know how hard it is. :praying

I am so sorry for your loss. My thoughts are with you that you will find peace with your decisions in taking care of you. My prayers go out for you during this difficult time.

:praying

So sorry for you loss.

Sorry I didn't respond earlier, I always feel so inadequate saying anything, and obviously have a difficult time with this, have never actually lost anyone close. My sincere condolences.

Sorry for your loss. Big hugs to you!

Ohhh sweetie.....I'm sooooooo sorry for your loss....be gentle with yourself today.

I'm so sorry for your loss. It is so tragic that a life was cut short by this horrid disease.

gentle hugs

I'm sorry he made these choices, supporter.

You did the right thing for you.

I'm sorry you're hurting, though.