Why did it take so long..... for me to realize COMPLETELY. I mean, I knew that my BF had a problem.....it had been worse, it's gotten a lot better....but it all makes sense....HE'S AN ALCOHOLIC. - the little lies or being late because he's out drinking - the urge to have a drink in his hand all of the time - the selfishness he has but he accuses me of being selfish - the little quality time we spend together - how he 'picks' on me like a kid, he can't sit still and just cuddle - we never have deep conversations unless it's an argument - always a bottle of wine at home - always wanting to 'go out with the guys' or be 'social' Plus- he's a bartender, trying to support his 2 girls who have moved away again for the 2nd time. Okay- see, right there....I just defended him. I have to stop doing that. "But I don't understand", "I'm not in his shoes"....blah blah blah. I'm sick of it now. I love him, I care for him....but I gotta quit giving in. |
Why? Denial. Same as the rest of us. No one is immune to the affects of alcoholism. You are not that lucky. |
Some of us are a little slower than others. It took me 24 years to come to the same realization. I love him, I care for him....but I gotta quit giving in. |
we see what we want to see..denial. k |
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