Why did it take so long.....

Old 11-09-2006, 04:58 PM
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Why did it take so long.....

for me to realize COMPLETELY. I mean, I knew that my BF had a problem.....it had been worse, it's gotten a lot better....but it all makes sense....HE'S AN ALCOHOLIC.

- the little lies or being late because he's out drinking
- the urge to have a drink in his hand all of the time
- the selfishness he has but he accuses me of being selfish
- the little quality time we spend together
- how he 'picks' on me like a kid, he can't sit still and just cuddle
- we never have deep conversations unless it's an argument
- always a bottle of wine at home
- always wanting to 'go out with the guys' or be 'social'
Plus- he's a bartender, trying to support his 2 girls who have moved away again for the 2nd time. Okay- see, right there....I just defended him. I have to stop doing that. "But I don't understand", "I'm not in his shoes"....blah blah blah. I'm sick of it now. I love him, I care for him....but I gotta quit giving in.
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Old 11-09-2006, 05:19 PM
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Why?

Denial.

Same as the rest of us. No one is immune to the affects of alcoholism. You are not that lucky.
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Old 11-09-2006, 06:02 PM
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Some of us are a little slower than others. It took me 24 years to come to the same realization.

I love him, I care for him....but I gotta quit giving in.
Sounds like a very good plan!
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Old 11-10-2006, 06:50 AM
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we see what we want to see..denial. k
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