My great aunt died this morning
 

We were hoping she'd be able to meet the baby despite her lung cancer but she didn't make it. Two big doses of grief so far on my sober journey. I know booze wouldn't help, I'm not even considering it, but I feel so sad. Our family is small so any loss is felt hugely and everyone is so upset :(

I can empathise with that scaredikklegoth. Although a long time ago now, mother in law died of ovarian cancer two months before our son was born. Love and support to you.

So sorry for your loss. I watched my Dad pass away from lung cancer a little over 3 years ago. It was tough having to feel the pain of grief without drinking, but it helped to make my recovery even stronger. The grief will pass, but your recovery will endure.

Support and care during this
time. Stay strong in your recovery
and lean on us here in SR for
strength anytime.

So sorry for your loss. Great Aunts are such special people in families.

I'm sorry for your loss SLG .

D

Thank you. So much sadness during a time when I should be really happy. It sucks :(

Sorry to hear about the passing of your Aunt, scared. My thoughts to you and your family.

One of the things that is the most difficult about getting sober is actually "feeling" emotions like pain and grief. Our default reaction while actively drinking was to try to "run away" with a bottle/can/glass. And of course that never works, it just makes it worse. Certainly the loss of a loved one or family member is a major event, but unfortunately life is filled with events that make us unhappy. Equating sobriety, or just life in general with being "happy" all the time is a very unrealistic expectation, and one that can get us in trouble with our addiction in a hurry.

I hope you are all able to remember the good things about her life, share some stories and talk together. And also make sure to give yourself some credit for staying sober throughout this period...she would be proud of you for doing so and you will be far better equipped to cope now that you aren't drinking anymore.

I am so sorry for your loss. It is especially painful knowing your little one won't ever get to know her. Lots of love to you and your family today. Take care of you and baby.

Someday you can tell your child all about her and in that way she will live on.

Sending you a big hug.

I am so sorry for your loss, le’goth!

May happy memories sustain you as you move through your grief.

Be sure to lean on us.

We care!

I'm so sorry about your loss. When my dog died I realized I was glad to be sober because he was such a magnificent creature and deserved to be mourned. We're here for you.

So sorry for your loss.
Support to you.
DS

Sending prayers your way. Stay strong and stay sober.

Hi legoth...life is giving you challenges for sure, with your pregnancy as well as the losses you've endured. In the meantime you've been a calm, strong and level headed force for your family to lean on. Be proud of who you are becoming, good things lie in store for you. My condolences for the loss of your aunt, its never easy to grieve a loss in the family. We are here if you need us!

Don't stress we know how you feel, I lost my Dad when I was 6, my Mum in 2004, at the same time I was going through a divorce.
If you go to the 12 step readings by Dave, you will read some really interesting stuff about how life is loss, its very nature is loss, but then from what you lose you gain. Something dies and something grows a new. That is the beauty of if.

Thanks everyone. It's times like this where I almost wish I could have faith but it just doesn't resonate with me. She had a good life and she was loved and that's all we can hope for.