Unfortunately my wife still drinks. She enjoys it responsibly. Where I don't and probably never will. So I slipped up last week. I plan to remain sober today.

Have you asked if she'd mind forgoing it (alcohol) while you are trying to get a foundation of sobriety under you?

I understand that we can't expect others to adjust to our non-drinking. But when I quit, alcohol was no longer brought into the house. My wife, who didn't have a problem, never said a thing about wanting to buy it, or drink it.

By not asking your wife to join you in abstaining, and keeping alcohol in your house, I have to think, self-sabotage.

It is amazing how convincing the alcoholic voice in your head isn't it?

Come on, just a beer... it won't hurt.

The desire to be normal has been a thorn in my side for so long.

I don't even count my days anymore. Couldn't care less and if anything I found it nonconstructive.

Just one day at a time. I am sober today and I plan to be sober tomorrow but I'll handle tomorrow's sobriety tomorrow. Works for me. One day at a time.

What are you doing for your recovery Arbor? :)

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Right now just reading the big book and SR. I read Rational Recovery back in the fall but it didn't sink in enough. I understand though that this site and just reading may not and is probably not enough long term. Seeking spirituality sounds exciting to me right now.

Hi Arbor

I think something to consider is that for many of us that commitment gets a lot easier and then even enjoyable over time.

I know some are wary of thinking too much about the rest of life, but I found that I needed to face up to that. To begin with my acceptance was reluctant; I didn't want to do it but I knew I needed to do it. But as the months past I got more and more comfortable with it, and I can honestly say I love the idea of looking forward to life-long sobriety now.

Maybe put the question of life-long sobriety on hold; or perhaps just note your feelings on it over time and see whether your response to the thought of it changes.

Well done on promising to yourself that you wouldn't drink today.

Amen.

How are you doing today Arbor? :)

Doing well. Doing well today. Thanks for asking! Been a great week so far. Reading lots. Feeling lots!