Hi donweezy - great thread..... I have noticed several posts (at least 3) to newcomers, that did make it sound like it they weren't in AA working the steps, they would fail in their sobriety. I remember being taken aback and cringing at the thought of how the newcomer might read that. I think that kind of thing would be fine in the AA forum and after people had been doing the program for a while, but NOT to someone just trying to get sober. I I'm sure the posts are only meant to help. I think some people just forget (in their enthusiasm) the state of mind they had when first starting out. I felt so sick and shaky (and isolated) it would have been impossible for me to even entertain the idea of a meeting. My two cents............. |
Originally Posted by suki44883
(Post 2602312)
I don't attend AA, but from what I have learned, it's not going to meetings that keeps one sober, but working the steps. The steps require a person to seriously look inside themselves and be completely honest. Have you tried that part of AA? One of the difficult things it seemed for me (I got really burned out on the same cast of characters, who didn't really care to be there but felt somehow "obligated") was to find someone to get to know well enough to trust to be honest with to get through the steps. I think I've stopped caring about what the truth is and just want to face the music so much, that I'm going to talk to my best friend about it He's been sober 7 years. |
Try what ever you feel comfortable with. AA was the only recovery program in my area some years back. I take what I need and I leave the rest. |
Originally Posted by donweezy
(Post 2602296)
Why do all AA members believe AA is the only way to stay sober? All people I have encountered who go to AA believe and preach the steps, and that the AA way is your only chance at sobriety. I went to AA for the first 3 months of sobriety, and I feel like it helped me greatly. Now I feel that everything is so repetitive. I understand some people may need that repetitive message to stay sober, but I think some may practice abstinence other ways. Looking for some feedback, and peoples opinions. Thanks Yall! |
There are other ways AA does work for some people. However, others have a hard time with it. Sometimes it is the "god" concept and for others, it is their position in the community which makes attending meetings difficult at best. "There are many roads to the top of the mountain, but the view is the same once you get there." For me, the key was pursuing the spiritual experience. The Big Book refers to it as "psychic change". I found this by pursuing metaphysical principles and applying them to my daily life. |
What are the other ways? |
Originally Posted by donweezy
(Post 2602296)
Why do all AA members believe AA is the only way to stay sober?
Originally Posted by donweezy
(Post 2602296)
All people I have encountered who go to AA believe and preach the steps, and that the AA way is your only chance at sobriety. Jme, but the majority of the folks I encounter at meetings use the "I" statement, not the "you" statement. "I feel that AA and the 12 steps saved my life" When I was very new to the program, I always believed they were talking about/at me, when they were in fact using the "I" statement
Originally Posted by donweezy
(Post 2602296)
I went to AA for the first 3 months of sobriety, and I feel like it helped me greatly. Now I feel that everything is so repetitive. I understand some people may need that repetitive message to stay sober, but I think some may practice abstinence other ways. Looking for some feedback, and peoples opinions. Thanks Yall! Yes, there are probably any number of people out there that have managed to maintain sobriety without the program of AA, but I don't personally know any of these people, and therefore can't offer any advice as to how they did it, and in any event, it wasn't my experience. I can tell you of my experience at 'going it alone', managed to maintain a period of almost 14 years of abstinence without AA in the last 11 odd years of that period. It was not a happy life during that period of time. And not one I would characterize as a period of 'sobriety'. And of course I went back out again for another round after that 14 years I've found AA, with all of it's repetition and boredom, is what I need to maintain some semblance of a sane life. These days, I prefer to let others do the experimenting for me. Good luck, let us know how it goes. |
Many people say meetings are very important for their sobriety, not on this forum I know but at the many meetings I have been too. It has nothing to do with the original intent of AA. It's all about meetings. We can thank Rehab centers for this. |
For me I do a lot of martial arts and have met some great friends in there who do not drink. We train hard and then do sober things outside of class. Also I started going back to school, these two things along with my full time job helps keep me sober. Some people would say I am abstaining but not recovering. I disagree. I'm on here quite a bit and read "Under the Influence" before seeing it on here. I just went to an AA meeting last week because my friend engouraged me to go and she presented me with a 6 month coin. It was nice, I will probably go back from time to time to hear other speak of there struggles. It's just not feesable (spelling) for me to go there several days a week. I support anyone who is getting sober, now matter what path they take to get there. |
There's a whole sticky about recovery programs... http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...resources.html I don't use AA/NA in my recovery, but I don't knock anyone who does. Whatever works.. |
Why do all AA members believe AA is the only way to stay sober? All people I have encountered who go to AA believe and preach the steps, and that the AA way is your only chance at sobriety. I went to AA for the first 3 months of sobriety, and I feel like it helped me greatly. Now I feel that everything is so repetitive. I understand some people may need that repetitive message to stay sober, but I think some may practice abstinence other ways. Looking for some feedback, and peoples opinions. Thanks Yall! |
Originally Posted by donweezy
(Post 2602296)
Why do all AA members believe AA is the only way to stay sober? All people I have encountered who go to AA believe and preach the steps, and that the AA way is your only chance at sobriety. Ranting aside, AAers tend to feel strongly about the program for good reason. It does help many people, and it's certainly the biggest and most well-known sobriety group. Small wonder it creates some fanatics. |
If you don't like AA you can always do it the Matt Talbot way: Matt Talbot - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia |
I've been around the rooms of AA since 1986, and I've never told anyone that AA is the only way. I can tell them what worked for me, and walk them through the steps if that's what they want. If they prefer something else, that is entirely their right. AA is the way for me. :) |
Originally Posted by Pinkcuda
(Post 2602713)
We can thank Rehab centers for this. |
i like AA. Anything that scares the average person must carry a good message. Boo! I'm kind of responding to another thread saying AA is a cult also. |
Originally Posted by stugotz
(Post 2602467)
The Big Book has been described as "poorly written, simplistic, and repetitive" I thank God and Bill for that. The same has been said of Allen Carr. I also thank Allen for that. People always try to see the complicated issue but the answer really is very simple-DON'T DRINK POISON. I LOVE AA and some of my strongest supporters are from the AA path. It did not appeal to me personally. |
Originally Posted by keithj
(Post 2603100)
I actually think we can thank ourselves for this. It's our (the AA members) responsibility to uphold our Traditions and carry a message. It's not the rehabs job to make sure we stuck with the original program of recovery. Rehabs sent in the masses raving about 90/90 and slogans to get the job done. |
AA is not the only way to get sober. I got clean using SMART Recovery. When I felt that wasn't enough, I began to supplement it with AA meetings. I asked a friend with over fifteen years clean time in AA for the best type of meetings. He recommended to me Big Book meetings. I mix my meetings up this way: Big Book, 12 and 12 study, discussion group, As Bill Sees It meeting, and speaker meeting. This keeps me from having to hear a bunch of people moan and whine. I also work the steps in conjunction with SMART. This has been a great program for me. Everyone is different. |
Originally Posted by Boleo
(Post 2603022)
If you don't like AA you can always do it the Matt Talbot way: Matt Talbot - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia |
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