I feel lonely I don’t have many friends in this country and I feel so depressed I need sometimes to drink and be happy My husband does not care about me and I don’t care about him either He calls me a drunk and insults me and does not respect me like I should be respect. I don’t drink so much like other people do, but sometimes I lose my control I started with this physiatrist and therapist, the therapist is saying as I’m taking ambient it makes more drunk and addicted to alcohol, when I visit my physiatrist next week I have tell him about campral or the other pills to help against cravings. Did somebody went thru the same as me, I will like some help and advise Thanks |
My exH called me a drunk so many times it ceased to affect me...until I finally agreed with him. We aren't married any longer, but get along (for the most part) better now than we ever have. He's very proud of my recovery, and lets me know that. You know why? Cause once I found sobriety I found respect for myself, therefore I find that I am treated with respect from other people. It's good that you are talking with your doctors. They can help! Karen |
Thanks karen for your respond. My husband did not respect me from day 1, thats why my drinking thing and depression I hope to get help and be sober with control like i was thanks so much ! |
If you want it badly enough, it'll happen. |
I think it is a great idea to be reaching out for help. Alcohol is a depressant and for more than a few deadly. Please don't mix pills and alcohol. When you get sober you will have the strength to fix your other problems, you must do that FIRST! You are worth it...don't forget it! |
thanks again you replays mean a lot for me !!!! |
Hi Marl...:) My long term depression is why I started AA recovery. The supportive new friends I met there are awesome. Take care of yoursself drinking is never the answer. |
thanks, but if im drepressed and go to AA i will still be depress? or a need other caind of help? thanks girls for you replays you such lovely people |
You pose a good question
Originally Posted by Mar13
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.....but if im drepressed and go to AA i will still be depress? or a need other caind of help? The 12 Steps helped immensely and continue to help with the situational depression. But for the chemical depression I had to seek outside help. I don't know if the chemical depression is a side effect of the damage I did to my brain while drinking or not but the fact of the matter is regardless of why I have it I have to deal with it. I will probably have to take medication for the rest of my life. But the alternative is not acceptable to me. When my depression is bad I get suicidal. I have been so blessed in sobriety that I would not want to throw that away simply because I wouldn't treat the medical condition of depression. I hope you find what works for you. I would recommend seeing your physician and being as honest as possible regarding this matter. I personally, make a list of the things I need to tell my Dr. before I go to the appointment as I tend to downplay or forget essential things. |
thanks ! i just find out about the thanks botton lol ! is the AA in churchs? im not a religious person even my daughther goes to catholic school i dont like going to church so if i have to pray i will prefer not to |
Originally Posted by Mar13
(Post 1503885)
im not a religious person even my daughther goes to catholic school i dont like going to church so is the AA in churchs? if i have to pray i will prefer not to Hope that helps answer some of your questions. |
Hey Mar, there are many alternatives to AA. I do however reccomend if you've never tried it to at least give it a chance, It wasn't for me but I did give it a whirl. I decided to seek help with a therapist and I also attend group therapy sessions for the f2f experience. I also am doing behavioral group therapy as well which has been great. I had problems with depression and manic depression LONG before I put any drink or drug into me so I know for a fact my brain chemistry is ABNORMAL, the booze and pills made everything worse. Before getting hooked up with a therapist my doctor wanted me to taper off the pills and setup a 2 week taper schedule, so I had no DT's really. I was popping a lot of valium, ambien (I have always had sleep problems) and I was drinking with them. Whenever I tried to stop on my own the depression was immense and the anxiety would send me to the roof. Call your doctor and be honest with him about everything, I've got almost 8 months under my belt but it was being honest with my doctor first that opened the correct door for me. Also I have a few friends in my group therapy that do both therapy and AA Our group is mostly for those with substance/alcohol problems who were self-medicating due to underlying mental health issues but a good therapist/doctor will fit you in with the right group for you. Typically you should be drug/alcohol free for at least 6 months for an accurate diagnosis, unless you have had the depression before you started drinking? DO talk to your doctor. |
oh thanks so much ! |
Originally Posted by Mar13
(Post 1502236)
I don’t have many friends in this country and I feel so depressed I need sometimes to drink and be happy My husband does not care about me and I don’t care about him either He calls me a drunk and insults me and does not respect me like I should be respect. I don’t drink so much like other people do, but sometimes I lose my control I started with this physiatrist and therapist, the therapist is saying as I’m taking ambient it makes more drunk and addicted to alcohol, when I visit my physiatrist next week I have tell him about campral or the other pills to help against cravings. Did somebody went thru the same as me, I will like some help and advise Thanks |
Hi is a good and will never like shout at me but he does not respect me in other ways Like not understanding me and being selfish That is not respecting me His a good man and not aggressive at all But I feel I’m not respect in some ways like when whey have an argument and the 1st thing he does calls me drunk And that hurts me a lot. |
I had no husband when I slid into alcoholism and still do not in sobriety. Sooo...I can not relate to that. The reason I suggested AA is my depression turned out to be situational. Once I stopped drinking for 3 months...it did vanish. And... you can make new women friends in AA meetings to help with your feelings of sadness and lonliness. My AA friends are so very kind and understanding. Just go and listen. What can it hurt? |
Originally Posted by Mar13
(Post 1505144)
Hi is a good and will never like shout at me but he does not respect me in other ways Like not understanding me and being selfish That is not respecting me His a good man and not aggressive at all But I feel I’m not respect in some ways like when whey have an argument and the 1st thing he does calls me drunk And that hurts me a lot. |
thanks, i should have a look in my area for one. |
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