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The Lost Child I've been reading about the roles people play in an alcoholic family and I can identify as The Lost Child. I have memories of being very quiet, almost invisible, trying to cause as little problems as possible. I would daydream a lot. That was an escape from reality. Does anyone have any advice or suggestions on how to heal from this role. |
Hi, see below. |
Hi. I’m writing a few months after your post. I hope you see it. Currently I’m reading a book called The Power Of Attachment. One take-away for those of us who have avoidant attachment traits (and it seems to me the lost child is an avoidant-type role) is to go toward people, reach out when we feel like withdrawing. The book contains specific examples of how to do this which is helpful. |
I was the "identified patient" and a very strong possibility of being a lost child as well. Not fun. I need to re read some of these things and figure out where my family of origin went so wrong, if it's even possible. We had one mean matriarch and a father who never came home, rarely. I didn't blame him. I wouldn't want to come home to my mom either in those days. After getting some support here, I realize how helpful and important it is to have this growing up. My love, prayers and grief who never experienced this growing up. :grouphug:♥♥♥ |
Originally Posted by Carpathia
(Post 7403398)
Hi. I’m writing a few months after your post. I hope you see it. Currently I’m reading a book called The Power Of Attachment. One take-away for those of us who have avoidant attachment traits (and it seems to me the lost child is an avoidant-type role) is to go toward people, reach out when we feel like withdrawing. The book contains specific examples of how to do this which is helpful. |
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