Originally Posted by LaTeeDa
If the marriage is to work, BOTH partners need to change. And even if the alcoholic refuses to change, and the marriage is doomed, the non-alcoholic spouse still needs to change or the pattern will repeat with a new partner.
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Which is what I was attempting to accomplish. To show him that I was trying to change. I may have gone about it the wrong way. I am trying to figure out if our marriage is doomed or not. I don't know how to do that without trying to be agreeable to some measure. Maybe there is no way, and I should just accept that our marriage can't be fixed.