Something about asking him not to drink while golfing when his typical
behaviour is in fact to do just that hits me.
I think that was a demand or a even a bribe leaving that note about
this evening. Personally a boundry to me is something that is in place
all the time. I think I would say something to the effect of
"When you come home drunk I will not interact with you on any level
and if you destroy our home in any way I will call the police."
As you have been told by others boundries are only effective if you
stay true to them.