OK. I think I get it. I messed up, but it's out there now, so I have to stick by what I said. I don't think I was trying to control him...or maybe I was, I don't know anymore. I was trying to make an offering for lack of a better word. Maybe it was more of a test for ME, to see how I would feel spending the evening with him when he was sober.
I'm not holding my breath that he won't drink tonight. We'll see.