I've heard all this before....
He's blaming everything on you and taking NO ACCOUNTABILITY. You should NOT have to bribe him to be sober for a night. It won't work anyway.
Been there done that. That is BEFORE I came here and caught on to all the manipulation. He needs to change not you.
My ABF still blames me for everything. He's been gone for over a month and still blames me. Still drinking. Calims he can't live without me. Ya Da Ya Da.
Good Luck.