Originally Posted by lostnotfound
I wear baggy pants to work and don't show what a beautiful woman I am..... If I don't listen to what he's telling me he will throw the bedroom TV through the window.
lnf, I'm glad you are going to a meeting Wednesday. If they do not read "Understanding Ourselves" at that meeting, see if they have the pamphlet it's in - Alcoholism the Family Disease.
I think what you did with the note and offer seems more like a bribe than a boundary. The boundary would be for you - I will not participate in activities with you if you've been drinking; and leave it at that.
I just want to add - the bit I've quoted out of your post - that is controlling and abusive behavior. What next? He'll throw
you through the window if you wear baggy pants? It's bullying at its worse.
Please take care of yourself. I know how hard it is - I've been there. It can be so confusing because it seems at times you are dealing with two completely different people - and sometimes you are.
Your meeting is a first step forward. Look forward to hearing how you make out.