Thanks for your insight. I messed up setting a boundary, but it's out there now, so we'll see what happens tonight. Honestly, I would be shocked if he comes home from golfing and hasn't been drinking.
Even if I decided to stick it out in our marriage I don't think that he will stay married to me if I don't let him control me. Maybe he would be that way even if he wasn't drinking. I don't know, because he has always been drinking