Originally Posted by equus
My first impression is that a night given solely to him rather rewards his tantrum...
Is there soemthing you want to get out of a night spent together? Something you would like for you?
If it was me the consequences of what he said drunk would have to be faced sober and they would probably include getting some legal advice re where I stood regarding the house.
I didn't really think of it as rewarding his tantrum. I will have to give that some thought.
What do I want out of the evening? Maybe for me it was just a test to see if 1) He would go without drinking for the night and 2) what would happen if we spent an evening together when he was sober 3) Is there any hope at all of trying to save our marriage, and do I even want to?