Originally Posted by ASpouse
I don't understand how this can be a boundary for you when you are giving him what he wants!
He is making this all about him LNF ... the bottom line is his issues are not yours. You have made this post all about HIM .... what about YOU?
I saw the boundary as his not drinking in order for me to be willing to give him my attention. If this is not an appropriate boundary, please let me know.
You are right...he does make it all about him. I am trying to detach from his issues, but he keeps sucking me back in by telling me how they are all MY issues.... I don't pay enough attention to him, etc etc. How do I let go of this?