(musky), Welcome to SR, and thanks for posting. I'm sorry you're so close to losing your wife and daughter. I hope that doesn't happen.
I also recommend AA. It's been great for me. Our Step 12 requires us to try to carry this program to others. Right now, you're others. Let us help you help yourself. It's private and anonymous, no last names, no identifying details. Also, we all were where you are. We all came to our first meeting once.
I've been sober over 17 1/2 years. Remember, I'm pulling for you. We're all in this together.