Well Phil's kind of a little like my brother except with the LD!! He does matter to me and it goes without saying D does.
Not worrying is good advice but sometimes the hardest to follow. I want Phil to still have a bit of a base, some sense of place and to know he's very much liked. I also want to consider D especially as Phil doesn't always have the skills to 'demonstrate' the respect he does feel.
YARG!! I know - don't worry and I am listening....