Originally Posted by lostnotfound
I don't know why I feel the need for validation.
Originally Posted by lostnotfound
I guess it's just hard for me to admit to myself that I would let someone abuse me.
Hi lost,
I found the reasons for these questions for myself went way back to my family of origin. I grew up in a toxic family system where on the one hand I learned how to defend and assert myself, but on the other hand, inside, I always was struggling to validate myself because I never felt quite 'good enough' inside.
My own belief is that a lot of what we experience in our adult and intimate relationships is repeating patterns we learned as young children.
I feel for your pain and hope you can come to some peace about your options and next steps,
best
gf