I understand your feelings. I'm on the otherside of the problem. I can only say that once non active the ability to be more honest appears. This of course is no help when the person is active. My own experence was lying, stealing etc. whatever it took to drink. I look back in horror the lying I did. Sadly, many times although it bothered me, it didn't stop me. What you need to do is take care of you. And if you are an enabler try and stop. Hope things work out. Just don't look for change while he's drinking.