The easiest way and the only way FOR ME, is to be completely honest with those that you love. I too was a closet drinker, drank at home, and even though they knew i drank, they will tell me now, when i talk to them about problems i am having dealing with all the HONEST feelings i have, they will say, I never knew it was that bad, what can i do to help? Admittance and hosesty are the two hardest parts of recovery, but vital..