He CAN'T work because YOU have ruined his life??? Oh, brother. Doesn't sound like someone who is ready to seek sobriety in light of the fact he is blaming everyone else for the mess he got into by his own doing. I agree with others here - don't answer your phone. Better yet, if you so desire, get an unlisted, unpublished phone number. If he comes knocking at your door, call the police. Yeah, he's definitely in panic mode. I hope he doesn't go off the deep end to the point that he starts harassing you or getting physically abusive.