Sigh... That's so hard to hear/deal with.
I like the way denny phrased what you could say to him, if you want to. I'm learning from here that you don't really have to be mean to keep your boundaries in place. Good luck getting through this part. It's no joke, and I expect to be in your shoes shortly so I'm glad this topic is here for me as well. Even though from a distance it sounds like such classic manipulation, it's hard to feel that way when you're the one on the other end of the line.