Amen to what Denny said, you will know he is serious when you see if he gets sober or not. He has got to want it. My AH said the same things to me, that he would die without me, that he needed me to be his wife and supporter, and that he didn't know what to do if I wasn't there to help him. Now, this is the guilt they try to pull on you and you musn't put too much stock in it. It's nice to feel needed but he will continue to drink and step over your boundaries as long as you let him. He can do it himself, he is just feeling desperate right now and not putting together that he has the key to save his marriage if he tries hard to work his program. Sadly, mine didn't do it. He reverted backwards and just when I think he has reached his bottom, he falls even further. I hope you have better luck than I did. (((HUGS)))