My last straw, well there have been a few last straws actually. I kept saying enough, and then I would let him cross my boundaries again and again. One incidence involved my little boy and my AH was being belittleing and picking a fight with him. On 4 occasions now he has sought comfort from other women outside of our marriage during seperations instead of working his program. I guess, finally when I realized that there will never be a change in his behavior. It will be a continual, viscious cycle of his behavior and me reacting or not reacting to it and my 7 year old son having to see it and being afraid for his Mommy. As much as I thought I loved my husband, I don't love him enough to continue to live like that, I don't love him enough to have my son learn his ways of verbal abuse and disrespect, esentially I don't love him enough to sacrifice myself for his disease.