I threw in the towel when I realized all the trust was gone. I could no longer stomach the behavior that went along with the drinking. My ah is a wreckless drinker, he is a liar and it flows over into his sober life. I realize now, drunk/sober isn't two different things. I was disgusted by his behavior and could no longer "believe" his nonsense. It was changing who I was, what I believed in, how I acted, etc. I ran around all day trying to put the lies together and figure out the truth.....I was driving myself crazy. The self doubt was slowly killing me inside. I called it quits then.