Originally Posted by jackson123
I just have this feeling of being a failure. I know that I am not but I just feel like I gave up on "us".
I am familiar with that feeling. It comes with the grieving. You've lost some dreams and it's a real loss.
My marriage lasted 17 years before I decided I couldn't take it anymore. Only the last 4 or 5 years were really bad, though. My last straw was a camping trip where he belittled and degraded me for the last time. I told him he had one month to find another place to live. About three weeks later, after not believing I would really make him leave, he came home at 9:00am after staying out all night. He moved out that day. Long story, much drama, kids involved, I was so done with him at that point..........
Journaling helped me work through much of the anger and resentment I had built up. I also went to counseling and am back at it again. It takes time.
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