Jessica,
Of course he was manipulating you when he said he wouldn't be back until he got his crap together. It's the poor me I'm a victim so I'll have to leave to get the crap together that I've brought on myself. boo hoo hooo hooo.
Everything that he says is manipulation to keep his free lunch going.
I know you most likely don't want to see there words but at least think about it.
Ngaire