Jwife22

I originally posted this in Naranon where I am a regular but thought this would be a good place to post as well. Thanks ahead of time for reading.

Me and my mom were talking last night about my husband. She knows everything I've been through with him and his addiction and because I have a brother who suffers from anxiety disorder and a nephew with ADD, she understands what my RAH is going through.

We were talking about some type of medication my brother is on. I honestly have reservations about my RAH taking any type of anxiety meds or ADD meds because he recently started his recovery from addiction to xanax. He is currently 3 months clean.


My mother suggested that although he is doing somewhat okay in learning to control his anxiety at work, that maybe we should consider putting him on some type of anti anxiety meds so that he can come to family functions, go out to eat with out panic attacks, go to friends houses etc.....because he can't do these things now. He is currently in cognitive behavioral therapy for anxiety.

I did a little reasearch at her house while I was there on non-addictive anxiety meds, which are basically anti depression meds. I found three

BuSpar is somewhat addictive but most effective in treating anxiety, has anyone had any experience in themselves or family members dealing with this med?

I also looked at Lexapro which is not benzodiazepine like xanax is and is the least addictive of any of the anti-anxiety meds but overdose at all can be fatal with this med (so what if he does try to abuse it, where will we be then?)

Then there is sinequan which is a new type of medicine but has the longest history of anti anxiety meds. This also has a horrible overdose record...

I don't even know if I want him to take anything but sometimes I feel like i am being unfair to him because I see what he goes through when he starts having a panic attack.

I am just at a major crossroads. He hasn't mentioned it because he doesn't want me to think he is after drugs( well he hasn't said that but that is something I am sure about)

I don't know what to do. Should I mention it to him about going to the doctor and letting them know? I just don't want him back on something he will abuse.

I also know this time that I not only won't, but CAN'T, be the one to make sure he takes his medicine as directed because I WILL NOT put myself in that place again.....to much bad stress on me as I am currently in recovery for being extremely codependent.

I am also going to do a post in the mental health forum to see if anyone there knows anythign about them...

Any opinions would be greatly appreciated because they are a valuable to me. Thanks.