If you are trying to control the fact of her going out....it's senseless. She's going out, whether she comes home to a clean house or dirty. If you are wondering if she would have a different attitude, upon returning home to a clean house rather than a messy one, I'd have to say.....definately. I don't know how old your daughter is, but for your own satisfation, could you clean up the mess with her, before bedtime? I'm not an alcoholic or addict, but I do know that when I return home and the house is messy, when I left it clean, I'm not happy!
This is a strange question, I guess. But that doesn't make it bad. Just remember, your wife is going to go out, whether she comes home to clean or tornado. She just may be alittle easier to live with, in the morning, if she comes home to clean.