Hi goaltndrswife,
Have you ever thought about counselling or therapy? Journaling is so very helpful for getting out emotions. For me, I also needed to get out my anger in therapy. Not only at people who hurt me today, but at those who hurt me so long ago. And underneath the anger, was also lots and lots of hurt and pain.
Rage away here in the meantime.
best
gf
(by the way-- you're not just someone's wife, you're an individual!)